Notice this didn’t say Men or Women… it says people. We all have a past and reason(s) for some of our decision making when it comes to choosing a mate. When you submit to someone, it does require serving their needs but it doesn’t mean that your needs are ignored. Significant others serve needs by providing transparency, dedication, value, learning, listening and the feeling of being safe to one another. You’re not Weak by wanting a Happy place with a person ♥️
Nicole Cherise ♥️
This has to be said. If you see him/her other than a partner then what is the goal? To have a grown child to boss around and take advantage of? If you ask me that sounds like manipulation and inner insecurities.
You Both should bring things to the table and be RESPECTED as each other’s equal.
Life is too short for anything else 💯
Nicole Cherise ♥️
Hi Friends!!!
Please do yourself this favor. We have so many views on what relationships should look like instead of just going with the flow. We have the tendency to not think out of the box and get upset with the failed expectations.
I know we use the model that we saw growing up or we decide to rebel against it. Either way, what we saw or read about in the fairy tales does not equal the LAWS of how a committed relationship should look like. Get to KNOW and GROW with your person and have fun.
What are your thoughts? Have to you decided to model after your family views? Have you rebelled against it? Or have you said, I create my own? Let me know, let’s chat about it ☺️
Thank you for reading!
Nicole Cherise ♥️
Hi Friends! Happy Wednesday!!
While being in a committed relationship, it’s important to understand the differences in family dynamics that our partner has from us. It’s important because you can establish the accountability that is required, boundaries and possibly a New start to your own Belief systems.
For example: if one person grew up in an authoritative household, he or she might have the same kind of approach in communication techniques or come off bossy. Yet, their partner might have grown up in a more liberal home where they express their feelings more openly. This pair, could clash a lot.
So, take the time out to have the necessary discussions. Try to let your guard down and be open to the new possibilities that could present themselves.
Have any of you had to do this? Would you do this? Let me know in the comments!!
Thanks for reading,
Nicole Cherise ♥️
You have to be true to self and love the person that you are. Any one that values you and is interested in building a future with you, Will step up to the plate. Make sure that You are ready as well. Be ready for vulnerability and to be Loved like you deserve. Enjoy the journey!
Thanks for reading!
Nicole Cherise ♥️
Hi everyone! I hope you all are having a good weekend so far! I was at wedding last night and like many others, it brought back many memories of my own wedding day. Weddings can stir many emotions amongst couples, they might pick up the romantic vibes during the couple’s dance, the exchange of vows and even when look at each other. One thing that I notice besides a smooch here and there are the holding of hands.
I know not all people are not into being lovey dovey constantly while others live off public display affection for one another. I’m affectionate and one of the ways I like to express my love is to hold hands. If I’m holding hands with my DH, I feel special, I feel safe, I feel the warmth of his body and that’s a great feeling.. When I hold hands with my son, I’m making sure he feels the same. My son knows that mommy will protect him and he can Trust me.
The power of a loving physical touch can bring joy and peace into your life. However, interlocking of hands can present an intimacy that is indescribable.
What about you all? Do you like to hold hands?
Thanks for reading,
Nicole Cherise ♥️
I hear men say “we can split things and work together” yet, expect their mate to cook, clean, etc..
I hear women say “I’m independent, I don’t need anyone to pay my bills” yet they won’t even look at a mate who makes less.
What is your preference? We are grown, State your views!
Thanks for reading!
Hi friends! Happy Friday to all!
Isn’t this always the topic of discussion amongst friends? You are deeply in love with your partner. You reached a place in the relationship where you are happy, trusting and loyal to one another. However, some how, you both get too “comfortable”.
What could too comfortable mean? It differs from one relationship to the other, but a few examples could be:
That’s just a few, if you can think of more, please drop it in the comments section.
Even though those things may seem like minor issues that couples endure, they can become bigger problems down the road. When people ask me for advice in this matter, I’ll tell them to C̶O̶M̶M̶U̶N̶I̶C̶A̶T̶E̶ Effectively Communicate with their significant other. Go into the conversation with an open mind, speak calmly, and be respectful. Also, we have to remember that nothing changes overnight. It takes time, patience and leading by example.
Has this been anyone else? Can you admit that you’ve gotten too comfortable in your relationship before? Let’s discuss below.
Thanks for reading!!!
Nicole Cherise ❤️
When you are in a committed relationship, we all have our lists of do’s and Don’ts. Some are from past relationships or examples of relationships that we have seen. It’s all good! However, you have to concentrate on writing your own love story from Your perspective only.
Of course, I can sit and say that my parents were married for a 44 years, they set the example of hard working and did a great job raising 2 kids. The truth is, what worked for them may not necessarily work for Steve and I. Guess what? That’s ok.
People, fantasize over the perfect marriage/courtship, and comparing it fairytales. Marriage isn’t perfect, it takes hard work from Both individuals. Just like in fairy tales, tragedy and triumph can take place, therefore, just Write your own. Develop your character in your relationship before determining how the story is “suppose” to flow. Then combine the two for the incredible journey.
I hope this helps! Thanks for reading!
Nicole Cherise ❤️
Hi friends! Happy Wednesday to all.
In our busy lives and schedules, sometimes we can get overwhelmed by the amount of places that we all have to be at once. It’s hectic and without organization, we can truly go crazy. If you are in a relationship with someone or have a family, this can be a challenge as well. What can we do? Find a Balance.
Finding a Balance in our lives helps keep us not only sane but it gives a sense of stability. We have significant others, children, elderly parents, demanding jobs/businesses, meetings, down time with friends and so on. I recommend prioritizing and go from there.
What are your priorities?
In my life, my list is: Faith, Family and Career. My faith is my intimate relationship with God. I need that for strength as I battle Multiple Sclerosis, life set backs and guidance to name a few.
Family, comes first! Friends are my personal picked family so they are included. My husband and son comes first no matter what. They are my back bones and their happiness and loyalty means the world to me. Therefore, I can’t put them on the back burner or place things that hold No value over them and their Needs. Of course my extended family and best friends are next in importance because I love them and they are my support system.
Career is important because it’s how we bring home the bacon lol. Rather it’s a 9-5 job or opportunities for entrepreneurship, what we produce are a representation of us.
Sometimes when there are distractions or an imbalance of things in your life, someone or something can feel neglected. That’s the last thing that we ever want to do. So, set your own priority list and stick to it. Communicate your intentions and goals and I’m sure all will work 😊. I hope this helps someone today that may struggle in their area of life.
Thanks for reading friends!
Nicole Cherise ❤️
I am Nicole Cherise ♥️ 